Myths Believed by Children of Alcoholics

If you are the child (or adult child) of an alcoholic, it is likely that at some point you have believed some or all of the following myths:

I am the reason that my mom/dad drinks and it's my fault they are an alcoholic.

It is my job to fix my alcoholic parent.

If I did something differently, then he/she wouldn't drink. 

My parent doesn't love me, if he/she loved me then he/she wouldn't drink.  I must be unlovable.  

These statements are untrue and sadly believed by the majority of children of alcoholics.  If you are one of those people, please know that these things are not true.  There is nothing the child of an alcoholic can do to keep their parent from drinking.